Single-Minded

“This can’t really be happening to me. It must be a mistake.”

Toby never thought she’d be approaching thirty and still be single, yet here she is. She’s a successful educator, with every reason to believe that life will unfold as she imagined. Instead, she finds herself navigating years of singlehood, watching friends, students, and younger sisters move forward while her own dreams remain frustratingly out of reach.

With remarkable candor and introspection, Toby chronicles her struggle to build a fulfilling life while carrying an intense longing. Through personal growth, friendships, and an unwavering search for Hashem’s presence, she discovers unexpected strength and purpose in the very journey she wishes she could escape.

More than just a memoir about singlehood, Single-Minded is a moving story about learning to find meaning in life’s detours. Honest, uplifting, and deeply relatable, it offers a rare window into the experience of prolonged singlehood while speaking to anyone who has ever searched for meaning along an unchosen path.

“[The author] has done a masterful job of being real and honest and makes the case for hope, tefillah, and growth.”
—Rabbi Shraga Neuberger, Maggid Shiur, Yeshivas Ner Yisroel